Sometimes we hurt the feelings of others with words, creating an impression of arrogance, selfishness and rudeness. Later on many of us realises that what has been said and wrote have been wrong and inappropriate. But what is done cannot be undone. Words can leave emotional scars; word can create memories- because words carry energy.
Today most of us live in digital world where communications fly over heads through internet and mobile phones. It is easy, convenient and speedy. But at the same time sometimes when the emotions and expressions doesn’t go along with the words over digital lines, we fail to communicate the right message to the right person at the right time. It can also happen other way. Sometimes we convey wrong messages through right words at inappropriate situations/time. This occurs when we are either emotionally overcharged or drained. In the surge, we fail to think of consequences, we ignore other person’s feelings and just speak what our heart commands/demands. Words can make, Words can break, Words can twist and words can turn life all the way around
This write up is based on my personal learning experience I have had last day with my best friend. I replied to her message in an off mood state, which infact turned out to be off track. I wish I hadn’t ever written a reply with turn down words when I was literally drained after a hectic week of miserable deadlines. She had actually invited me for a warm evening chat, after a long silence. And I was stupid enough to make a lame excuse in a senseless manner. I wish I had conveyed the right message to her instead of explaining my frustrations after long hours work. But all I could do, when I knew my words went sore, was to Apologise, because she is a precious gem whom I never ever want/intend to hurt. It happened and I learned a lesson.
From experience, I share:
Do not respond to mails, text messages and phone calls when you are emotionally disturbed or if you are caught up in a mess. You might be conveying the wrong message. Person on the other end of world might not know your temperament, your schedules, and your commitments. Once you get settled down, you can give back a call or a message, which is more refined and furnished. (this is better than creating a worse situation)
Even in a spontaneous communication in person or over phone or a chat, take a fraction of second to answer three questions: is it the truth you are going to speak, is it relevant and is it necessary?
Try to be kind and smiling when you pass on a message to people you like because words carries that smile and energy which would help in creating a stronger bond. Anger, hate, slangs etc. are hot and spicy words that can burn beautiful relationships. Do take care of the words that fall out of your personal dictionary.
If your words did hurt anyone, don’t think whether he/she was right or wrong. APOLOGISE for the wrong words that you have used, because you are taking responsibility for your action. It can reduce the extent of damage. It can pacify situation. It can even convince the other person about your state of mind at that particular moment of wrong response and can help in rebuilding relation. Making an admission statement, which comes straight from heart (to the concerned person and not to world at large) can ease your pricking pain felt within your soul, seal the cracking walls and can mend breaking relationship. All of these matters in maintaining a healthy relationship let that be with partner, friend, family members, colleagues or an acquaintance.
Remember, ANYONE can play with words. But the talent is in conveying right words at right time to build up relationship that has truth, trust and tenderness as base. Cultivate this habit and you will see how words can make a beautiful garden of relationship in your life. Let your words take wings and spread the feeling of love, care, companionship, courage, inspiration and all such positive energies to the world.